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What Happens When You Stop Taking Things Personally

3/19/2016

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There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally." ~Don Miguel Ruiz

Most of us have taken something someone else has said personally. If someone says something negative, we may get angry or upset. And when we continually rely on others saying positive things to make us feel good, we allow them to determine our self worth and confidence. Both negatively affect our self-esteem, our relationship with ourself and with others.
When we stop taking things personally, we realize that what other people say and do is not about us at all; it's about them.

According to Don Miguel Ruiz, author of the Four Agreements, nothing others do is because of us. Their words and actions are a projection of their own reality, their own feelings, beliefs and issues. When we become immune to the opinions and actions of others, be they negative or positive, we are no longer allowing ourselves to be victims.


Three incredible things occur when we refuse to take things to heart.

1.We become the ruler of our own emotions and get clear direction for our life. When we take the things other people say personally, both negative and positive, we are in effect handing over control of our emotions and our life to someone else.  But when we choose to no longer take things personally, we are then in charge of our emotions and our actions. What other people think or expect of us no longer has an impact. We follow our heart, believe in ourselves and do what is best for us and our lives without being influenced by outside pressures.

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4 Ways to Make Your To Do List More Achievable

3/5/2016

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People are remarkably bad at remembering long lists of goals. The longer the lists of to-dos and goals, the more overwhelmed and off-track we become. Clarity comes with simplicity. ~Brendon Burchard
Most of us have To Do lists, whether written on a piece of paper or logged into our SmartPhone. Do you often find yourself looking at your list and thinking, “There is no way I can get these all done?”

Well, there is a way to write a To Do list that allows us to achieve the items on that list but also to make ourselves feel good once we’ve completed them. This new way of approaching our To Do list will free us of guilt, allow us to focus on productivity, prioritize our tasks, and master a new way to be.

Below are 4 ways to make your To Do list more achievable while also feeling rewarded and motivated in the process.

1. Write it down
Research shows our brains have a limited capacity for short term memory. As soon as a To Do item pops into your mind, jot it down. Once its in our journal, on a piece of paper or in our phone, then we don’t have to worry about trying to remember that task and we can focus on the other items at hand. Keep a running list of all tasks and pull from that list to compile a daily list.

2. Keep your daily list short
Often, our lists are so long that we are overwhelmed. Where do we start? Which task is most important? To ensure our daily To Do list is manageable and something we can complete, pick the top 3 or 4 things from your long list. This increases our success because we are aware of what need to be accomplished today.

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    Carol Adamski

    Carol Adamski, M.A., has led various workshops—nationally and internationally—on leadership, personal empowerment, communications, and relationships. For 15 years as a coach, she has demonstrated strength and compassion, with the ability to listen deeply and ask just the right questions.

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