Carol Adamski
  • Home
  • Coaching
    • Life Coaching
    • Professional Coaching
    • Ace The Interview. Get The Offer
    • Coaching for Effective Presentations
    • Living in Gratitude
    • Women's Study
  • About
  • Client Testimonials
  • Blog
  • Contact/Links
  • Political Candidate Consultant

Listening to Understand VS Listening to Reply

1/21/2017

0 Comments

 
​“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” ~Stephen R. Covey
Listening is an important part of communication but is also one of the most difficult skills.
 
When someone is speaking to us, there is a delay between what we hear and what we understand. During this time, we begin listening to our own internal conversation and as a result, our ability to comprehend what the speaker is saying declines.
 
This lag time can be a result of our physical or emotional state but odds are, it is due to our own thoughts and opinions that we seek out of every conversation to support our own personal beliefs. Called confirmation bias, this tendency causes us to only listen for what we want to hear.
 
Often, people also employ competitive listening in which they hear something they believe to be false. This causes a negative reaction, listening ceases and communication breaks down.
 
Listening requires dedicated concentration and a willingness to understand what the other person is saying. To achieve understanding, we have to listen to comprehend rather than listening only with the goal to reply. Understanding does not necessarily mean we have to agree but when we are able to recognize and appreciate another viewpoint, communication flourishes.
 
Below are 7 tips on how to listen to understand rather than listening to reply.
 

1. Eliminate or minimize distractions
Turn off phones, televisions, shut the door. Do whatever is needed in your current environment to limit outside distractions. Take a deep breath and relax. Make yourself comfortable. ​If you’ve been caught in a place where you are unable to listen without distractions or an important topic comes up during another conversation, set a future date to discuss that topic. 

Read More
0 Comments

Wholehearted Living

1/7/2017

0 Comments

 
​"Wholehearted  living is about engaging in our lives from a place of  worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think, “No matter what gets done  and how much is left undone, I am enough.” It’s going to bed at night thinking, “Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.” ~Brené Brown
​Brené Brown is considered one of the biggest ‘thought leaders‘ of the modern era. Wife, mother, author, teacher and speaker, she has done extensive research into what it means to live a wholehearted life. She has discovered that there is ‘no amount of success, money, power or influence that buys you a free ride‘ in dealing with personal vulnerability and shame.
 
Through her studies, she has discovered that these two emotions keep many people from being authentic. We work to become who we believe others want us to be rather than being our true selves. When we don’t live up to certain standards put upon us by society, we feel ashamed and lesser than.

Read More
0 Comments

    Carol Adamski

    Carol Adamski, M.A., has led various workshops—nationally and internationally—on leadership, personal empowerment, communications, and relationships. For 15 years as a coach, she has demonstrated strength and compassion, with the ability to listen deeply and ask just the right questions.

    Archives

    April 2022
    March 2022
    February 2022
    January 2022
    December 2021
    November 2021
    October 2021
    September 2021
    August 2021
    July 2021
    June 2021
    May 2021
    April 2021
    March 2021
    February 2021
    January 2021
    December 2020
    November 2020
    October 2020
    September 2020
    August 2020
    July 2020
    June 2020
    May 2020
    April 2020
    March 2020
    February 2020
    January 2020
    December 2019
    November 2019
    October 2019
    September 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    April 2019
    March 2019
    February 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    April 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    January 2018
    December 2017
    November 2017
    October 2017
    September 2017
    August 2017
    July 2017
    May 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    February 2016

    Categories

    All
    Career Advice
    Coaching
    Life Tips
    Research Studies
    Time Management

    RSS Feed

Subscribe: Receive a FREE guide ~ 
5 Key Communication Mistakes & How To Correct Them
as well as newsletters with event updates, inspiring and practical information.
We respect your privacy and will not share your information. 


Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.

BACK TO TOP

Contact Carol Adamski - 408 761-4446

Plain&Simple Web Design
Google analytics